My mother has never known how to do hair, not hers and definitely not mine. Until she went natural a couple of years ago, she got her hair done every Friday at 4 p.m. like clockwork.
When I was little my Grandma would straighten my hair with a hot comb for Easter and put the little roller in it so I could have a bang in front. Otherwise I wore it braided. I never had the fat ponytails like the other girls. I so wanted fat ponytails.
Then when I was in the 6th grade my mother decided to have a jheri curl put in my head. Sigh. As I said earlier, she couldn't do hair, and my hair is much finer than hers and wouldn't hold a curl for a week as hers did. She thought this was a carefree (<--haha!) way to make sure my hair was done. I wore the curl until I went to college. I still looked jacked up, however, cause it took me some time to learn how to use curling irons. But once I got the hang of it, I was off to the races.
At one (really broke) point in time I could relax, wrap or roller set my hair, while also touching up my color rinse and I thought I was the bomb diggity. Yes, I dye my hair. I started graying at 16 and now have a skunk stripe. I got permanent color back in 1992 and despite the stylist testing and doing all she was supposed to do, my hair fell out in clumps two weeks later. This was a week before I had to be in a friend's wedding. So every month since I've gotten a color rinse with the exception of Jan. 2009 when I didn't have a relaxer and got permanent dye again.
Over the years I've tried wigs, weaves, braids, two strand twists and most recently, a natural. But you know what works best for my hair? Going to the hairdresser every other week, good conditioning and staying away from curling/flat irons.
I get my hair done on Saturday and this lasts til about Friday with me just fingerstyling and then I wash, condition and wear it natural for a week.
It only took 30+ years to get here...