When you're messing up, who checks you? Do your friends just sit back and say, "OK, if that's what you wanna do," or do they pull you to the side and really question you about the choices you are making?
I know the women in my circle will question me and I do the same for them. This isn't about the negative nellies, or haterade, that's different. This is real talk. People who care about me and my future and care that my actions or choices could be putting both in jeopardy.
I think that's part of friendship. But I see a situation where friends are letting another person make what could be a mistake. And, from my perspective, it's because THEY have their own interests at heart. It's hard to watch. I don't get "yes men."
I'm not saying that sometimes people shouldn't have to learn the hard way -- hardhead makes a soft ass and many folks learn by lesson rather than lecture -- but I think friends look out for each other. To do otherwise seems...wrong to me.