I have a friend that moved across country with an SO for a new job. The SO found a new job in the same city and everything was lovely.
When the economic crisis happened the SO lost their job, but was able to find freelance work and the couple made it work.
Then the friend lost their job and ended up getting a new gig pretty quickly but on the opposite coast.
Friend moved and they had a long distance relationship for about a year until the SO decided they couldn't do it anymore and broke it off.
My friend beat the bushes and got a new job and is back on the other coast with the SO. The relationship is all good now. But my friend hates the new job.
Here's my question to you: Would you do all this moving around for someone you weren't married to?
I'm not asking this question in a judgmental way, I'm trying to better understand my views on relationships and commitment and why I feel/believe the things I do.
For example, I am pretty sure I wouldn't be able to do all this life rearranging for someone who wasn't longterm committed to me and, for me, that would mean marriage. But I think that's because I don't trust other people enough. Or maybe I don't trust myself enough.
I know people who are making these kinds of moves and decisions all of the time and it seems to work out perfectly fine.
So why is it marriage or nothing for ME? Hm.
What say you?