"There are notes between notes, you know." -- Sarah Vaughan

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Ya know what??

Y'all I have to maintain a lot of different accounts and blogs to keep my work me separate from the REAL me and I do some of the same social networking-type stuff for work.

And it doesn't help that OneChele over at Black 'n Bougie INSISTS upon writing hilarious posts that I have to comment on several times a day.

And now CreoleinDC is back and blogging.

Sigh.

So for the next couple of days I'm going to try and be present in REAL life with my mom and niece who are visiting for the holiday.

I mean, I might peep in e'ry now and again, but if y'all see me lingering, remind me that I have REAL LIVING and BREATHING folks I can talk to/interact with and tell me to log off.

That is all. Thanks and bye.

Sunday, June 26, 2011

More dating yada

(Read this and then come back to my post otherwise it may not make sense)

When I saw the pic and read the first few graphs of this week's DateLab I thought "OH COOL!" This couple seemed well-matched in many ways. Both educated, professional, not bad on the eyes and I liked that he was very upfront about his faith. He also said that he was dating purposefully. She seemed to be looking for someone kind, giving and sincere with a strong faith base.

Then they met and he didn't look like she wanted him to and the whole thing went south from there.

(READER ALERT: Here's where I start rambling...)

This is one of those times when people say something and then do things that contradict what they said. I see it a lot in dating. If you want to marry a professional guy with fitty-leven degrees, that's fine, but you prolly won't meet him if you are spending all your free time with the club bouncer. Just admit that what you really like are dudes that are a little more rough around the edges and you can stop stressing yourself out.

When it comes to dating, I try to stay flexible. I mean, I have some non-negotiables but I try to keep that list short. And now that I am divorcing I have some new lessons to add to my relationship knowledge arsenal that I hope will be useful in separating the wheat from the chafe.

While on the date with Mr. Match 1 he mentioned something about "the numbers," slyly referring to the supposed shrinking pool of eligible black men.

To that I said, "If and when I want another husband, I will get one, that ain't no problem." He was visibly taken aback. Now whether or not I believe that is beside the point, my parents taught me to be on top of whatever game I'm in. So I needed him to understand that I am the catch, not him. He needed to be trying to get MY attention as I'm trying to decide if I want to spend time with HIM. Damn that numbers propaganda.

I believe in love. I do. And I am very open to having love in my life again. I don't want or even like to play games. So miss me with that "ain't but a handful of good brothers left" nonsense.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Wait Wait ... Don't Tell Me!

I listen to this every Saturday and you are missing some good laughs if you don't. You can hear this week's installment here. Enjoy!

Friday, June 24, 2011

More dating pre-post divorce

Went out with a guy I met on Match earlier this week and it was a nice dinner date, but that's about it. *shrug*

Had no intention of reaching out to him and felt pretty sure I wouldn't hear from him again, but, here it is Friday and he's texting me. Not asking me out (and I'm not available this weekend) but just friendly, "what's up, how are you" type stuff.

As I was texting him back I thought, why did I assume we wouldn't be in touch again? Am I an all or nothing kind of girl? I mean, he seemed like a cool fella and even if I can't envision myself kissing him we can laugh and be friendly. Right?

Hm. *reassesses priorities*

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Dating after divorce

OK. I am not divorced. Yet. I am separated. But the marriage is over and I'm over the marriage and it's summertime and I liked to be squired about town so I joined Match.com to get this thang poppin' off. I need a summer bunny! LOL!

Well, let me rewind a bit. I have been casually dating a teacher since February who I *really* like a lot, but my spidey senses keep tingling so I'm holding back until the whole situation is revealed.

In the four days since I joined Match I've had a couple of conversations with some seemingly interesting fellas. I hope to get out and meet at least one of them in the next few days as we have a good little smart ass back and forth going on and he seems like he might be fun.

I've also had a couple of cray crays wink at me, too. I just delete and move on. You can't let one monkey stop the show. Dating is a numbers game. *shrug*

I'm NOT looking to get horizontal with anybody any time soon. I know some folks are able to do the deed and not have connections but I'm not that girl. So best to stay chaste until it's somebody special and we're in a committed, mutually faithful, monogamous relationship.

Anyway, that's all that's up with me. What y'all doin?

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Wolverine and Barney! #theatergeeksrock

I've been watching this on rotation now for two days. It's the BEST THING EVAH!!

It's got Hugh Jackman and and and Neil Patrick Harris and they dance and sing to tunes I know from all the musicals I've watched 1000000000 times and. Yeah. Love.

The BLAHs

I'm in a blah ass mood today. I don't want to work. I don't want to talk to my coworkers. I don't want to do anything except lay in my bed and watch trash TV and eat Oreo cookies.

Unfortunately, I have to work as I need the money to pay for the mixed green salad I am going to eat instead of Oreo cookies.

Someone did just ask me to do something fun so maybe that will change the course of the day.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Let it BUURRRRNNNNNnnnnnnnn

I don't know WHY this Boondocks episode popped into my head today, but I started giggling and decided I needed to remind the rest of the world how hilarious this was, especially the part at the end when Riley weighs in. LOL!

Monday, June 6, 2011

Free Your Mind ... and Your Ass Will Follow. -- Funkadelic


Over on Black n' Bougie there's a discussion going on about infidelity. You can go over there and check it out, but I'm going to riff on a tangent here today.

Someone asked me recently how I could be friends/friendly with Mr. SLS. Part of why I didn't go scorched earth is because we have two embryos left and I'm not sure what I want to do with them. To me, if there is a chance we might parent together, we need to not be at each other's throats.

But, as the months have passed I have to say, it's been easier to be friendly with him than I would have thought at this time last year. I don't feel anything for him anymore. He kissed me recently and there was...nothing. Not.a.thing. I can remember a time when he could kiss me and I would be dizzy.

So, for me, the place between love and hate is...friendship, I guess. We have a history together that, before last year, was filled with laughter. I can't disregard that part because last year was shit-tastic. We still have a few financial connections and he still does stuff for me.

And finally, I married this man. I picked him and decided I wanted to spend my life with him. I tried to have children with him. We confided in each other. We dreamed together.

Friday, June 3, 2011

Odds and Ends

Well lemme see. My friend is pregnant! She went to Africa a couple of months ago and I told her sweetie to send me a baby back as a souvenir and he did! LOL! #winning

That same friend has been a key impetus in getting me up and out of the office to take a walk daily. I've committed to walking at least a mile a day, preferably more than that, but no less than a mile a day. I mapped out a route and we've been doing it. With that and walking to/from the Metro to get to work, I'm getting in 3 miles a day. In the past two years I've lost some weight, but I have more to go before this body is where it should be -- fit and healthy. I've revamped my diet, too, cause no amount of walking is going to counteract a terrible diet.

As CreoleinDC always says, it's time to BE MORE VAIN.

I'm going to see X-Men: First Class tonight. What can I say? I'm a comic geek.

And finally, here's some mellow Friday music to get you chilled out for the weekend: