"There are notes between notes, you know." -- Sarah Vaughan

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Living The Vows by @TiffanyNHouston

I got tired of writing about me. So I stopped.

But I still read my regular round of blogs and today I saw this post and knew I had to get over here and share the good word: "Living The Vows."

It's a message very many of us need to hear and certainly one that resonates with me.

Hope the holidays were wonderful for all of you. Take care. -- SingLikeSassy

Monday, December 12, 2011

Gift-Giving Trial and Error

@Onechele's post over on Black 'N Bougie today brought back some marriage memories.

My ex comes from a family of "things" people. They like stuff. Preferably expensive stuff with people's names on it. For them, spending a lot of money on something equals love.

I'm not into that. I want experiences. Or thoughtful gifts. For awhile there the mister had a hard time figuring out what to give me as gifts.

For my birthday the first year we were together, he gave me some diamond earrings -- not my style, but I never said a word and I wore them until last year.

Then later that same year he took me to London, Berlin and Savannah. I think that's when he figured out he didn't have to buy me stuff, I wanted to do things, see things, explore things with him. Experiences.

So that first Christmas we were together he took me to see "The Color Purple" on Broadway, then we had dinner and did the whole NYC at Christmas thing. I had never done that before and I still look at the pics and smile.

Don't get me wrong, over the years he gave me stuff, too -- a camera, my iPhone, a Wii, a flat panel TV, an iPod speaker dock -- but we did a lot of fun stuff together.

"Carmen" with Denyce Graves. Events where I met a lot of the great jazz musicians of the day, such as Christian McBride, Dianne Reeves, Herbie Hancock, Terence Blanchard, Chris Botti, David "Fathead" Newman (Bokeem Woodbine played his character in Ray) and more. "Ragtime" after I mentioned in passing that I had read the book. Go-cart racing. Roller coaster rides. Kayaking.

Don't give me the world, SHOW it to me.

I'm actually torn right now because, as I said a few posts ago, seeing "Don Giovanni" at the Metropolitan Opera House is on my bucketlist and it's something that would be great to do with him because we used to watch the movie Amadeus ALL.the.time.

But, that's not divorced. Is it? Sigh.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Christmastime Is Here!

Another cd that's on constant play during the month of December is "A Charlie Brown Christmas."

I can't actually pick a favorite song from this cd as they are all so great, but here's one song I listen to more than the others:

Friday, December 2, 2011

What The Hell Ginger?!

So this lady comes out and says she has spent 13 years rolling around with Cornbread (I won't say his full name here).

blog post in The Washington Post included this information:
"White has been frequently unemployed, according to news reports, and public records reveal financial difficulties that resulted in several eviction notices."
Thirteen years and my paper so messed up I am getting eviction notices?!!! DA HELL kinda side piece game was this chick playing?

As I have said many many times before, I don't do side chick. Not ever.

BUT if in some strange crazy weird world I fell down, bumped my head and lost all my sense and morals and became a side piece to some married man, BELIEVE ME, I would not be doing that ish without considerable compensation. And as long as I'm laying down, I better not ever never EVER get an eviction notice or foreclosure notice or no other kinda damn disconnection/bill not paid in full notice. Shit on that. 

Again, my parents taught me to be on top of whatever game I'm in. 

Ginger got screwed literally and figuratively. 

That's all. Carry on.