I was responding to a post over on Black 'N Bougie about age and dating when I realized I was blogging in her comments so I brought my thoughts on over here to my house.
When I was a sophomore in college my uncle -- my mother's older brother -- was dating a girl who had just graduated from my university. We had the same name, too. It was odd going to family functions and looking at this chick. Mostly cause I wondered why in hell she was hanging out with my uncle. He's got some paper stacked but he's always been pretty darn stingy (except with me, it's so nice being the favorite niece, LOL!).
But, I guess she just liked him because they are still friends today, she lives here in D.C. and when he visited me a couple of years ago, we went to visit her, her husband and kids and stuff.
And when I think back on it, she was always very mature. I was a kid for a long time.
I remember hanging out with my aunt one night (she's 10 years older than me) and meeting this older guy (much older than my aunt). He was a school superintendent, had several degrees, was an Omega and was nice looking for an old man. All I could think was, he would be great for Mama SLS. Well, this dude was thinking, SLS would be great for me. He wanted to fly me in to visit him over my spring break (he lived in Ohio) and all this jazz and I couldn't get my head around it. I know plenty of people who would have gone and let him be a sugar daddy, but I've never been that way. I've always wanted to be in love, you know?
Last year was the first year I dated a man more than one or two years older than me. He was 46. He had adult children and just seemed real grown. He was also very respectful of me. I liked it.
Last year was also the first year I ever dated anyone younger than me. He was 33. He was real grown too. He was also very touchy feely let me squeeze on this, rub on that, which was kinda nice, too. Even celibate folks need some affection. LOL!
I think people should follow their hearts and if your heart leads you to someone much older or younger than you, well, so be it.